Well I liked the first part of your post, about not lowering my standards. Everybody tells me my standards are too high. I don't know that that's true. . . I'm sure there are some decent guys out there (arent there??).
But I have to dissagree, I'm pretty sure I don't come off as desparate. I'm actually worried that the opposite is true, I give off a vibe that I am not available. I don't get approached by guys because I don't really want
to be approached. Because it would make me nervous and uncomfortable and I would probably turn them down anyway.
And I don't flirt. I always thought that was my problem. When there is a guy you could be interested in you are supposed to flirt with them, but I don't really know how. I think that's why they would see me as a friend before they would see me as girlfriend material.
I'm not usually attracted to guys who are unavailable, I just don't know how to get them. I rarely am attracted to someone (I've had about 4 big crushes in the last 8 years). They all were single and available when I became interested in them but they get snatched up before i get the guts to tell them how I feel, or I end up too far in the "friend zone", or we don't even become friends and we graduate and I never see him again. Also when I have one of these crushes, there is no way that anybody else will be good enough for me. That's why I'm too picky. I want to learn to be more open to the possibility of love, or else how will it ever happen for me?