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From:theycallme_rita
Date:May 3rd, 2004 10:01 am (UTC)

Never settle for less

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We'll start off with the subject of the matter: "NEVER SETTLE FOR LESS!" No matter what do not lower your standards. If your friends tell you that they have yet to meet anyone with your potential or the qualities that you look for in a guy then GOOD! At least they know not to lower your standards, right?
Another thing I have to address would have to be the way you are looking for guys. I think you're trying too hard. Like I said before, your time will come. You can't force something like this. I'm not saying to sit on your ass and avoid guys all together. But what I am saying is to maybe (please do not take this the wrong way) look so desperate. Guys/people in general can sense that. I mean, can't you tell when a guy is totally looking for someone, anyone? It's very obvious and could definately be a turn-off. So look out for that next time.
And now, like always, I will end with a question.
Do you find yourself liking guys who are unavailable to you?
Answer this and I will get back to you.

RG
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From:bludiamond
Date:May 4th, 2004 08:25 pm (UTC)

Re: Never settle for less

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Well I liked the first part of your post, about not lowering my standards. Everybody tells me my standards are too high. I don't know that that's true. . . I'm sure there are some decent guys out there (arent there??).
But I have to dissagree, I'm pretty sure I don't come off as desparate. I'm actually worried that the opposite is true, I give off a vibe that I am not available. I don't get approached by guys because I don't really want to be approached. Because it would make me nervous and uncomfortable and I would probably turn them down anyway.
And I don't flirt. I always thought that was my problem. When there is a guy you could be interested in you are supposed to flirt with them, but I don't really know how. I think that's why they would see me as a friend before they would see me as girlfriend material.
I'm not usually attracted to guys who are unavailable, I just don't know how to get them. I rarely am attracted to someone (I've had about 4 big crushes in the last 8 years). They all were single and available when I became interested in them but they get snatched up before i get the guts to tell them how I feel, or I end up too far in the "friend zone", or we don't even become friends and we graduate and I never see him again. Also when I have one of these crushes, there is no way that anybody else will be good enough for me. That's why I'm too picky. I want to learn to be more open to the possibility of love, or else how will it ever happen for me?
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